Wearing Hair for the First Time in Public
If you’re new to wearing hair, it’s natural to be self-conscious as you return to normal activities after your first attachment. We encourage people to be open about wearing hair, in order to help remove the stigma associated with it in our society, but we know this isn’t something everyone is comfortable with. Below are tips and suggestions for smoothly and discreetly transitioning into wearing hair. We also help you find the right words to share your story with others when you’re ready.
How to make a smooth transition
Our recommendation is to be open about wearing hair with those in your inner circle. We understand how difficult this is, and we aren’t suggesting you announce it publicly on social media, or feel you need to tell everyone you meet. However, if you let a few close friends and/or family members know, you’ll experience less anxiety around those to whom you feel closest. We feel it’s important to erase the stigma that’s often associated with wearing hair; ideally, it would be viewed no differently than coloring your hair.
Create a distraction
With that being said, we don’t want you to do something you aren't comfortable with. Whether you choose to tell a few friends or keep it a secret from everyone, the easiest way to discreetly transition into wearing a hair system is by redirecting focus away from your hair. Here are some ideas that have worked successfully for others:
Before making the transition, wear your hair differently for a week or two. Try brushing it forward or spiking it all up for a few weeks prior to receiving and attaching the system.
Grow some facial hair, then shave it the day you do your attachment. People will be focused on the missing facial hair and won't even notice you have more hair on your head!
If you normally wear contacts, wear your glasses while you transition into wearing a system, or vice versa.
The trick is to do something different. That way, people will look at you and know that something is different, but they won't be able put their finger on what it is. Also, once you are wearing your new hair in public, don’t touch your head a lot or fuss with your hair in public — that draws attention to it.
Time it right
Timing does make a difference when you’re wearing hair for the first time. If you go into work with thinning hair on Monday and a full head of hair on Tuesday, the transition will be more difficult to hide. If possible, it’s best to make the change over a weekend or vacation.
If you have an event coming up, like a wedding, we strongly recommend you don’t have your first system fitted right before the big day. You will put undue stress on yourself, and won’t have proper time to adapt emotionally or physically to your new hair. Have your first system fitted at least one month prior to your big event, so you have time to get used to it.
Take it slow
If you don’t plan to let people know you’re wearing hair, start with a light density — slightly heavier than your growing hair. Starting with your ideal hair density, or the density you had before your hair started thinning, will raise some red flags. With each new system, gradually increase the percentage until you reach your desired density.
If your front hairline is significantly recessed, gradually lower the hairline in increments of a quarter of an inch in each system over the course of a year, until you have the hairline positioned where you want.
How to respond to questions
Even if you carefully plan your transition into wearing hair, it’s important to be prepared for curiosity from both friends and strangers. We don’t want questions to make you anxious. Here are ways to respond that others have found helpful.
If you don’t want people to know
When people notice a difference in your hair, but you don’t want to let them in on your secret, it’s best to acknowledge that there’s a difference and then change the subject. Consider the following options when someone asks why your hair looks different:
“Yes, I’ve been wanting to try something different. What time is that meeting today?”
Give them a short answer — as if it’s no big deal — and then flip the conversation back to them, because people like talking about themselves.
Don’t stammer if someone gives you a compliment. Simply say “thank you” and move on.
If you want to let people know
As we mentioned, we think it’s great when hair wearers feel comfortable about sharing their secret. Here are some tips if you want to let people know why your hair looks so wonderful!
Speak with confidence and resolve.
Don’t be apologetic or condescending towards yourself.
Don’t let other people’s shock or surprise shake you.
You can absolutely make this transition effortlessly and with confidence!